Oh Jesse... One can only put so many blames on their parents, neighbors, or even addiction. He obviously didn’t acquire tools to own up to his bad behavior.
Jesse James decided to bring forth his father as the scapegoat for his hostile tendencies. Whether his childhood beating was an exaggeration or resembles the truth is not the issue. Nor, does it matter. The problem is that Jesse lacks accountability and integrity…
There is no denying he is a candidate of high-risk, self-distructive personality (like his own father), but to me it’s clearly not a self-loathing one. If Jesse’s backbone was made of self-hate and insecurities, he wouldn’t have a successful business, a hit show, and married a world renowned female celebrity, Sandra Bullock. This Jesse has a great deal of self-ego, and it’s the ego and confidence that brought him his well-deserved success. It’s also his psychological ego of bedding random dirty tarts that brought destruction and hostility to his personal life. So who’s to be blamed here? When a self-disctructive ego is concocted without culpability, the blaming game is the only answer. And that’s a very cowardly way of handling thy self.
In this case one needs to be a heartless soul in order to see the clear picture and understand the dysfunction of mankind. Even through Jesse’s tears… If we think about the history of man, religion was mainly the scapegoat for violence. The unchanging behavior where mankind still create chaos and fight over territory, politics and economic power, thus using these reasonings as an excuse. But it’s not just leaders and men of power that stir volatile environment, common citizens spread personal dysfunctions as well. What’s common about individuals with chaotic tendencies is that they think rules and laws do not apply to them… That’s when the flame starts to burn and the ego turns to greed.
We tend to mistake greed for need or survival. The truth is that even gang violence doesn’t ignite due to survival. It occurs from greed, boredom and the need to fight for stimulation.
It’s pretty clear Jesse was guy who never abided to the law or his own parental guidance. No matter how dysfunctional his father was, Jesse lived by his own sets of rules, and he broke the law a countless of times, including his vow in marriage.
Family dysfunction comes in different sizes and color. But regardless of the poverty, alcoholism, beatings, deceit, illnesses, or religion, at some point mankind must pull up and build his own dignified territory that causes less or no harm to his surroundings. It’s been working for millions of men and women, who build a new future for themselves without looking back on their past. If they trip over a rock, they get up and keep walking, without ever blaming the rock or their parents.
Man up, Jesse…