Forget the marriage vow, been pointless to 50% of couples… But “Till death due us apart”, is profoundly certifiable the second you give birth to a child, till you die…
Shouldn’t there be a new Birthing Vow? A vow induction right in the delivery room: “You and the baby will be bound and woven together through fatigue, tears, trial and error, love and commitment, until death do you guys a part. Neither of you can leave or stray one another, or you will be convicted of neglect or run-away and be penalized to shame by society.
My third sister once said, ‘you are not a woman until you bear a child of your own’… This was over a decade ago, when her girls were in PreK and fixated on Barney. It’s a bold statement and heavily debatable in the 21st century where women have paved the way for equality, respect (some are still pole dancing, nevertheless) and some choosing not to have a family.
But all due respect, the ontonomy of producing a human in itself is so sacred and profound…. endure child birth, sleep deprivation, teenage tantrums, demands and spit-table attitudes… So we should honor this ‘I am a woman’ theory 110%, oui? But at what cost? Is the life long sacrifice and selflessness worth the trouble? If some of you said no, then that’s the right answer too.
I would never trade my two children for anything in the world. Nonetheless, I can totally respect those who choose to be childless. One day when my daughter is a mature adult she should weigh the option of adopting, birthing or none of the above, as her three choices.
To tell you the truth, I can honestly say 99 percent of the mothers have felt envious of a childless women more than once.
, worries, frequent anxieties, and more worries that mothers have for their children doesn’t stop when they go off to college. It doesn’t slow down when they get married and start a family wither. The marriage vow of ‘Death Due Us Apart’ is a joke compared to we are doomed till our death… We almost lose sight of our own selves in order to polish and nurture our own children till death due us apart… How exhausting….
A month after I had give birth to our daughter, I called up my three sisters up and demanded the truth about the absolute truth of motherhood. Their responses were. “If we told you how hard it is, you would never have children”. MURDERERS!
I say it’s okay not to bear children. It’s far from a crime or